Kindness can take you a long way in life. It always feels nice when someone does something specifically for you in order to make you happy. It makes you feel good and it makes the person who was kind to you feel good inside.
Do you ever take the time to go out of your way for people? I don’t always. We live in a world where everyone is trying to gain from the things that they do. I’m just saying, but you do gain from kindness. You don’t get money or anything, but you feel so good inside, and people notice what you do. They may not comment on your actions, but you shouldn’t stop doing good deeds.
Like I said in another blog, if you are beautiful on the inside, you can become more attractive on the outside. You will become more attractive on the outside.
The exact definition of kindness is “the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.” It means being selfless and compassionate. I like to think of it as a deliberate act. After a while, it becomes second nature. You can’t help being kind!
How can you be nice to people? That seems like a silly question, but it’s not. We can be nice in so many ways:
An anonymous quote reads like this: “If you can be anything, be kind.”
Make kindness your goal, your dream and your inspiration. Trust me. It’s worth it.
I have already written about how we can seek attention in a good way. However, I really only addressed certain circumstances, like if a group of friends ignore you. Girls can also really struggle with gaining the attention of a guy. You want to pay attention to the points that I discussed in part 1 of this topic. They will definitely affect the type of guy that is attracted to you.
If you get anything out of this, I want you to remember this: Guard your body. It deserves to be taken care of and respected. In Jenna Lucado’s novel Redefining Beautiful she gives a beauty tip that I think all girls should mind: “Modest is hottest.” Don’t you agree? Okay, I know that it might sound like we should be dressing in granny clothes, but that’s not what it means at all!
Lucado also writes “what we wear says a lot about how we expect to be treated.” This is where the “Modest is hottest” thing comes into play. You can still follow all the styles that are in today, but you can also make these styles your own. Don’t show off your body! Cover up everything because it definitely reveals something about your character: that you deserve to be respected by everyone.
Again, Lucado makes a great point with this: “If a guy notices that a girl is wearing clothes that tease his eyes, he will more than likely think she is a girl who is easy and flirty, and he may treat her with less respect. But if we keep the private places private, guys will think we are a little bit more mysterious. They won’t assume that you are someone to take advantage of.”
I love this! I dress in a way that hides everything, and I don’t get unwanted attention from boys because of it. You may think that if you don’t show yourself off a little bit, you aren’t going to ever attract a guy. Here’s a little secret that you need to know: If the guy that you attract only cares about your body, he isn’t worth your time. Every girl deserves someone who loves them for who they are, someone who looks at their heart before they focus on your body.
Gain the respect that you deserve from other people, particularly males, by respecting your body. Dress modestly. You may not get a lot of attention from guys at first, but one day you’re going to meet someone who is attracted to you because of the way you treat your body and because of your heart.
(Quotes are from page 130 in Jenna Lucado’s book Redefining Beautiful.)
Everyone likes to be noticed. It’s just a fact of life. When people ignore you, you feel invisible, like you don’t matter. Here’s the thing: You do matter. Someone is bound to notice your strengths eventually. You just have to wait for the right person to come along.
When people give you the silent treatment, you can react in two different ways: You could change your personality and become an attention-seeker or you could just be yourself and do your own thing. The bad decision would be to become an attention-seeker.
You may wonder why seeking attention isn’t a great thing to do. Don’t get me wrong, there isn’t anything wrong with wanting to get someone’s attention. For example, if you have a crush on a super handsome guy, you’re definitely going to want him to notice you. The way that you seek attention is going to affect how people respond to you.
If you try to push your way into someone’s life, you come across as overpowering. They are going to really try to ignore you because you are getting weird. They aren’t going to want to spend time with you and you’re probably going to get hurt even worse than you were before because of this rejection.
If you try to gain attention by quietly going about your business and by doing things to help the people you want to hang out with, they are going to start to notice you. This type of attention-seeking is okay because you aren’t making yourself susceptible to major rejection. If a group of people still ignores you, you should probably go and hang out with another group of people. You don’t want to get hurt, and you don’t want to start getting pushy.
In a book titled Be Who You Want to Be, the author, Karen Casey, makes a great point about attention seeking. She writes, “It’s okay to want attention. Everyone likes it when people notice them. But there are good ways and bad ways to get attention. Bad ways get people’s attention at other people’s expense, like by interrupting them or making jokes about them or teasing them.”
This point is so great because it describes how attention-seeking can have negative impact on your character. If you are rude in order to get someone’s attention, people aren’t going to want to hang out with you.
The message is this: If you want to be a nice person that people like, you have to gain attention in good ways. After all, you don’t want to be known as a rude girl.
(Quotes are from page 53 of Karen Casey’s book Be Who You Want to Be.)
A girl’s worst enemy is herself. She is the one who puts herself down. She is the one who tries to be someone else. She is the one who compares herself to other people and changes herself to fit their ‘criteria’. Comparison can be a dangerous thing. In fact, S.T.A.R. counselor Jen Lados says, “Comparison is the thief of all joys.” How can you be happy if you aren’t satisfied with being you?
How is comparison a dangerous thing? Girls struggle to find their identity because of it. They try to change themselves, whether it be their appearance or personality. They always find the flaws in themselves and fail to see how beautiful they truly are. We are all beautiful in our own way, yet we fail to recognize this. In fact, we all go through a time where we wish we could be someone else. We may not realize it, but we are making life like a competition. A competition in which there is no winner.
There is only one you. If you try to be someone else you are not only robbing yourself of happiness, but you are denying people the chance to see the real you. This leaves everyone unsatisfied. It leaves you vulnerable and negative. Once you start thinking that you’re not enough, you won’t stop thinking like this. You may, but it can be extremely hard to get back onto your path. The path that leads to you and your life.
If you want to be you and not be negative about it, you have to fight against the criticism that fills your mind. Look at yourself in a mirror and say that you’re beautiful. Stop trying to be someone else and embrace who you already are. Don’t let the thief known as comparison steal your joy.
Who are you?
We can all answer this simple question by filling in the blank with a name. But does your name define you? I don’t think so. Grace Nunn is my name, but that’s not who I am.
We all have an identity. In fact, some people steal identities. Here’s my question: Are they truly becoming that person by taking their name? I don’t think so.
If someone stole your identity, you would still be you. There is only one you. We are all different, all beautiful in our own way. We all have different passions, likes and dislikes. We all look different.
If someone stole your identity are they stealing you?
You are you! No one can take that away from you. You are who you are.
The problem in our society is that people aren’t satisfied with their identities. They try to be like someone else. By doing this you are robbing yourself of your own identity. There is only one you. Embrace this by being yourself. Find out how you want to make a difference. Choose the career that you love. Stop caring about what other people think and just be you!
If you stop being yourself and struggle to grab onto your identity, you are not only robbing yourself of happiness, you are robbing the world of getting the chance to see you for who you really are.
Be bold. Be beautiful. Be you. By doing these things you will strengthen your identity. Don’t ever try to be someone else. You are needed.
Are you one of those people who worries about every little thing? I kind of am. I get so caught up on worrying about the future that I don’t enjoy the present. That isn’t a great way to live, and I know this. There are ways to control the worry, ways that will make life so much more enjoyable. It takes a lot of determination, but it can be done. You just have to choose to overcome the fear.
Worrying never helps any situation. It only adds to the stress. Anxiety accumulates until you feel like you’re going to choke from the pressure of it all. Here are some great tips to calm down:
Corrie ten Boom once said, “Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength – carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.”
Doesn’t that make so much sense? Worrying really steals our strength away from us. I know that it’s super hard to get rid of fear, but it is doable. Just don’t let worry steal your joy. Living a joyless life can be a lonely place to be.
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n'Courage Girls' Club
Encouragement. Fun. Laughter. Creativity. Conversation. n’Courage Girls Club!
This group is designed for girls ages 10-13 and it is a great after school program for girls who love to craft and have fun. Our goal is to have a place where girls can come after school and enjoy snacks, crafts, friendship and learn new skills while encouraging healthy self-esteem.
This is what one of the girls in the group thinks of our program:
“This group is perfect for young girls; we do tons of activities, pay a multitude of games and overall just have a great time. It’s a Christian organization with the main focus being on improving self-esteem in a fun environment. We come to the Norfolk Pregnancy and Resource Centre every Wednesday to encourage girls to be themselves and try to help them be confident about who they are.”
As a leader I want to create a space for girls to come and have fun! I like to be creative by bringing a new activity each week. We encourage the girls by talking about self-esteem issues like body positivity and embracing who we truly are.
Please come join us! There is always room for newcomers.
This article was provided to us by the Haldimand Norfolk Health Unit. For more information, there is a contact at the bottom or call NPC for help.
Pregnancy to ParentingInformation from health professionalsBABY'S FIRST YEAR · BREASTFEEDINGBreastfeeding: Signs that your baby is swallowing breast milk effectivelyFebruary 8, 2018Quynh Teresa Vu, RN
As a nurse, many parents express concerns like “My baby seems to be sucking at the breast but I am not sure if he is actually drinking my breast milk”. Often clients show up at the breastfeeding clinic asking for advice about what a good breastfeeding looks like.
A good breastfeeding can look very different for babies of different ages.Having the baby skin to skin at the chest immediately after birth will help with latching and breast milk production. The first few days after birth, your baby will want to breastfeed very often because their stomach is small and empties very quickly.
Initially, your breasts produce a thick, yellow and very nutritious breastmilk called colostrum. The frequent emptying of the breasts through breastfeeding will help your mature breast milk come in. It is important to breastfeed whenever your baby shows signs of hunger.
When your breastmilk comes in between day 2 and day 5 after birth, your baby will be able to drink more at each breastfeeding. While your baby is breastfeeding, you can look at their jaw to see whether they are swallowing.
Signs your baby is sucking and swallowing breast milk effectively:
Learn more on how to tell if you are breastfeeding well.
It is important to get help right away if your baby is not showing signs of breastfeeding well. You can also connect with a nurse via our eChat or call (416) 338-7600.