I have already written about how we can seek attention in a good way. However, I really only addressed certain circumstances, like if a group of friends ignore you. Girls can also really struggle with gaining the attention of a guy. You want to pay attention to the points that I discussed in part 1 of this topic. They will definitely affect the type of guy that is attracted to you.
If you get anything out of this, I want you to remember this: Guard your body. It deserves to be taken care of and respected. In Jenna Lucado’s novel Redefining Beautiful she gives a beauty tip that I think all girls should mind: “Modest is hottest.” Don’t you agree? Okay, I know that it might sound like we should be dressing in granny clothes, but that’s not what it means at all!
Lucado also writes “what we wear says a lot about how we expect to be treated.” This is where the “Modest is hottest” thing comes into play. You can still follow all the styles that are in today, but you can also make these styles your own. Don’t show off your body! Cover up everything because it definitely reveals something about your character: that you deserve to be respected by everyone.
Again, Lucado makes a great point with this: “If a guy notices that a girl is wearing clothes that tease his eyes, he will more than likely think she is a girl who is easy and flirty, and he may treat her with less respect. But if we keep the private places private, guys will think we are a little bit more mysterious. They won’t assume that you are someone to take advantage of.”
I love this! I dress in a way that hides everything, and I don’t get unwanted attention from boys because of it. You may think that if you don’t show yourself off a little bit, you aren’t going to ever attract a guy. Here’s a little secret that you need to know: If the guy that you attract only cares about your body, he isn’t worth your time. Every girl deserves someone who loves them for who they are, someone who looks at their heart before they focus on your body.
Gain the respect that you deserve from other people, particularly males, by respecting your body. Dress modestly. You may not get a lot of attention from guys at first, but one day you’re going to meet someone who is attracted to you because of the way you treat your body and because of your heart.
(Quotes are from page 130 in Jenna Lucado’s book Redefining Beautiful.)